Before you reach down to cuff your pants – don’t. Just…don’t, OK? As my cool model friend recently told me, cuffing is a thing of the past. And, in exploring alternative ways to not trip over my pants, I just so happened to discover my new favorite look – unfinished hems. And it appears I’m not the only one! Tons of designers are leaving their high-end pieces un-hemmed, creating a stunning juxtaposition of refined and rough, regal and pauper-like.

Right now, the brands that are slaying the frayed hem game are as follows:

Faustine Steinmetz.

The East-London-based, Parisian designer can actually count frayed hems as one of the few defining characteristics of her namesake label. She’s known for taking frayed denim and imbuing it with intricate weaving, spinning and dyeing. Each piece is made in her studio and by hand.

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Prada.

Prada recently showed an epic Spring/Summer 2015 collection, with brocade dresses, new multi-patterned knee-highs and a staggeringly exquisite take on platform clogs. But what stood out for me was, again, the use of both high-end fabrics with streetwear designs — in particular, the ornate, brocade, patchwork dresses with unfinished hems.

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Rodarte.

For Rodarte’s Spring/Summer 2015 collection, they made mermaid-style dresses with eclectic patterns that included, for many, a fishnet overlay on the bottom half. Look closely and you’ll notice the fishnet is unfinished at the ends, adding an ethereal effect to an already dreamy collection.

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Marques’Almeida.

They’ve always kept their hems frayed, ever since their first collection in 2011. They mainly stick to denim and silk, in terms of material, and tend to maintain simple garments, perhaps to balance out all of the unraveling.

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Céline.

Always perfect, Céline’s Spring/Summer 2015 collection — when it came to construction — was no less magnificent than the ones that came before it. However this season Phoebe didn’t adhere to her usual beige and monochrome color palette. Long, knitted dresses were fashioned out of red and blue knits, with unfinished hems that were on the verge of fringe. The same construction was applied to all-white, knitted, loose-fitted pants.

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It’s a way to flex your IDGAF muscles – sartorially – and a way to ooze unconventional class. It is also, incidentally, a fun new way to piss off your grandma. you can do it yourself – starting with jeans, perhaps, and then transitioning over to wool and maybe even silk. Or you can buy pre-frayed items, like the ones discussed above, or these more affordable options below. (IT’S ALL RELATIVE, OK?? Link to items in photos.) TC mark

1. House of Holland’s Denim Jacket in Embellished Lipstick Print (2.73).

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2. Cheap Monday’s Fleece High Neck Sweater (.65).

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3. Vladimir Karaleev’s Jacquard Basic Skirt (4).

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4. Black Crane’s Cream Painter Dress (4).

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Totokaelo.

5. Marques’Almeida’s Long Sleeve Mini Dress (0).

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6. Marques’Almeida’s Merino Wool Trousers (9).

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7. Marques’Almeida’s Open Back Turtleneck (7).

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I sing — that’s a fact about me. I sang all through my childhood; and in my teens, I sang with a band; and in my 20s, I sang with my best friend Hula — we wrote songs and sang them at parties — and later I sang to my daughter, when she was a baby. I sang to her until she said, “Mama, don’t sing.”

I never thought there might be a time when I wouldn’t sing — but for a while, there was.

The problem seemed to be that I had no one to sing with.

At 15, in Brooklyn, I’d never thought twice about singing all by myself as I walked down Quentin Road or waited for a train at the Kings Highway station — no more than I thought twice about singing as I sat beside my mother on the Coney Island Avenue bus, sat on my knees facing the window, singing “As Long As He Needs Me” at the top of my lungs. But at 30, making my way across the campus of the University of Iowa, where I was in grad school, it never crossed my mind to sing (and if it had, I’m pretty sure what would have crossed my mind would have been, What are you, 15?). And so, somehow, with no one to sing with in Iowa City, and no one to sing with (there was hardly anyone to talk with) in Omaha, where I moved after I finished grad school, for four years I didn’t sing at all.

At first I didn’t even notice that I’d stopped. I didn’t miss it, either. And even when Hula visited me in Nebraska, there was no singing — there was not even any talk of singing. I was too busy showing her the sights, and showing off my driving, a newly acquired skill (and, to that end, we drove back into Iowa, halfway between Omaha and Iowa City, to Des Moines for the Iowa State Fair), and she was too busy raising an ironic eyebrow, shaking her head, and murmuring, “Are you kidding me?” (for example, when one after another of the contestants in the State Fair Queen Pageant answered, somberly, “The plight of the family farmer” in response to the question: “What is the most serious problem facing the world today?”).

We watched the crowning of the Fair Queen and petted the baby farm animals, examined the butter cow, admired the freshly shorn sheep in their pajamas, watched sheep being shorn, and studied the thousand-pound pumpkins. We ate fried dough and corn dogs and cotton candy and stood aside as the brass band paraded by, and, as the day progressed, I could see Hula trying to decide whether to maintain her sardonic distance or be charmed, as I was — or at least amused, as I also was. It was my first state fair, too, but I didn’t have an ironic bone in my body about it.

We’d brought two of the younger sisters of my (like my driver’s license, also recently acquired) boyfriend to the fair: teenage girls born and raised on a farm in Iowa, living now in Omaha with their brother. Watching Hula with the girls, seeing her finally laugh (at the giant pig, and then, a few minutes later, the giant cucumbers) — seeing her bafflement flicker into amazement and finally into something like pleasure — was a great relief to me. I was still in shock myself (pleasant shock, mind you — happy shock — but shock nonetheless) over how much my life had changed.

Of course, it’s possible that that was why I wasn’t singing anymore. Before I’d left New York for Iowa, I’d never been away from the city for longer than three weeks (and, at that, only once, the summer I was seventeen); for over a decade, I hadn’t left New York at all for more than three days. It’s possible I needed to marshal all my resources simply to adjust to life in the Great Midwest.

No — that can’t be true (possible, maybe, but not true). I didn’t quit writing, after all. Nor did I give up romance — although at first I made a conscious effort to, and I did manage eight romance-free months before I began dating the med student who would move to Omaha for his residency, and for whom I would move to Omaha once I’d graduated too.

I even picked up a few new pastimes — domestic ones suitable to my new Midwestern life in a real house with a front yard and a proper kitchen: I put in a garden; I learned to cook.

Indeed, the only other activity I can think of that I relinquished during the Iowa and Nebraska years was smoking cigarettes.

Did I somehow think singing might be bad for me?


I never started smoking again — it’s been 29 years now — but I returned to singing almost the minute I left Nebraska for Ohio. In Columbus, where I moved for a teaching job, the first friend I found (who, by spring, after the Iowa/Nebraska doctor and I had amicably split, would turn from friend to boyfriend) played the guitar and sang beautifully (which goes a long way toward explaining the shift from friend to boyfriend — but that’s an old story, isn’t it? Doesn’t every woman have at least one story that features a man and a guitar?).

By summer, my new boyfriend and I were singing together for hours every day, sitting side by side in the swing on the front porch of the hundred-year-old house I’d just moved into. I’d bought the house — a leap of faith in honor of my having completed my first tenure-track year, and an act of defiance, too: taking a stand, doing the most dramatic thing I could think of after not marrying the doctor, declaring myself a woman who was not waiting a minute longer for her “real life” to begin.

The new boyfriend and I sang Beatles songs, mostly. We sang “Hold Me Tight” (feels so right now) and “Eight Days A Week” (just like I need you) and “You’re Going to Lose That Girl” (yes, yes, you’re going to lose that girl). I was wildly in love: I took that bromide about “making beautiful music together” absolutely literally.

But by September he was gone (having, yes, lost that girl — though “lost” is prettifying it: he ditched me), and — just like that — I stopped singing again.

This time, unlike the time before, I noticed. I noticed that I wasn’t singing, and I missed it, too. I missed it more than I missed him (or else missing it was all mixed up with missing him — I couldn’t tell). I missed Hula, too. I missed everything. It struck me that autumn that I had made a wrong turn somewhere — that I was living the wrong life.

It did not occur to me then, as it does now, that I was too depressed to sing. I remember consciously considering the thought that I might never sing again.

I dressed up this bit of melodrama in pragmatism. I was sad, sure, I told myself, but I wasn’t only sad. I was also busy. What had I been thinking of, anyway, spending all those hours (hours upon hours, day after day, for months!) singing? I had things to do.

And so I threw myself into all the things I did that weren’t singing. I proofread the galleys of my first novel and began a second one, set up readings and signings and made and remade lists of people who should get copies of the book once it came out, even as I settled in for serious advance fretting about reviews. I taught my classes and wrote up proposals for new ones, served on departmental committees, edited a literary magazine, applied for grants. I made dinner parties and made friends and fussed over my house — the house that had been a factor, the singing ex-boyfriend had declared, in his leaving me (my leap of faith an act of no-faith in us, it seemed to him, and for all I know he was right): I painted and repainted, contemplated and rejected wallpaper samples, made the rounds of secondhand and antique stores and lugged home dressers, chairs, a desk, a coffee table. I moved the furniture around (then moved it around again — and then again). I put the coffee table on the porch and bought another coffee table. I painted the coffee table I’d moved out to the porch. (I painted it red. And then I decoupaged it.)

I started taking piano lessons (it had been 22 years since my last lesson, and I was alternately astonished by how much I remembered and astonished by how much I’d forgotten), setting aside half an hour a day to practice “Für Elise,” “Rondo Alla Turca,” Chopin preludes, scales — making music but not singing. Resolutely (sadly, busily) not singing. As I’ve done all my life, before and since, I battled back depression with sheer busyness (a strategy that hardly ever works for anyone, but works — or more or less works, usually — for me).

Fall passed, winter passed, spring began. My book came out. I made it through my second year of teaching, went off to an artist’s colony (I brought my piano books to Yaddo, so I could practice), made some headway on the novel. Started a new romance.

I would probably have sung with that boyfriend (spring and summer, 1990; breakup in the fall) if he had sung — but he didn’t, or he didn’t then (he sings now — sings and plays guitar and banjo in an all-faculty/staff band at the college where he teaches). If he’d ever played guitar for me back then (if he even knew how to play guitar back then — he never mentioned that he did), we might have lasted longer — who knows? (No, actually, I do know: we would not have. The relationship was ill-fated for any number of reasons, not the least of which was that I’d met him through the boyfriend who did play guitar and sing with me, then left me — and for whom I was still pining — or that the boyfriend who never mentioned that he played, or if he played, turned out to be what one of his grad school housemates delicately called a “two-timer.”)

The boyfriend after the two-timer didn’t sing either — and that was Glen, the one I married. By the time Glen and I got together, I’d stopped missing singing. I’d stopped thinking about singing — that was what I would have said if anyone had asked. But who would have asked? Who would it have mattered to except me?


Two and a half years passed songlessly. And then, one April morning in 1993, I surprised myself with the sound of my own voice.

I was seven months pregnant, in residence at the MacDowell Colony, and as I made my way through the woods to my studio in hip-deep snow, I discovered that I was singing. I was singing “Amazing Grace.”
I stopped. I laughed, and then — I was pregnant; this is how it goes when you’re pregnant — I started to cry.
And every day after that, as if a spell had been broken, I sang. I sang folk songs and pop songs and rock songs and jazz standards (and the one hymn I knew, “Amazing Grace,” which I sang over and over again). I sang to my daughter, loudly, as I plodded through the snow, from Colony Hall to my studio and back. Every day after breakfast, I sang. I had ski poles to help me keep my balance as I pushed through the snow. I’d reach my cabin, build a fire, change into dry clothes, and write all day, determined to finish the manuscript before the baby came — and ten hours later I’d head back, ski poles in hand, for dinner and conversation, singing all the way.

When I ran into the painter from Maine who had been assigned the cabin nearest mine, he laughed and waved. I waved back and kept on singing.

My great discovery, that cold spring in New England, was that not having someone to sing with didn’t matter so much, after all. Not if I had someone to sing to.


Of course, this too is an old story. What mother doesn’t sing to her child? Still, it felt new to me. It was new to me.

It’s new to all of us when it happens for the first time. Like everything.

Even falling in love with the boy with the guitar isn’t a cliché when you’re the one doing the falling.


These days, 21-plus years after that frozen April (I once was lost but now I’m found) that yielded finally to a true New England spring of rivers of mud, I have people to sing with and people to sing to, in spades. These days, 25 years after those summer nights on my front porch with the boyfriend who would be gone by September (and then I might/never be the lonely one), 32 years after Hula and I traded shoo-wop shoo-wops between lines about narcissistic men (they like themselves so much it’s catching/so watch out for the disease), I sing with a 200-voice choir, the Harmony Project. Our concerts, in a gorgeous old theater in downtown Columbus — a theater in which Lillian Russell and Al Jolson once sang, in which Isadora Duncan and Anna Pavlova once danced — sell out every time: that’s nine hundred people to sing to a night.

My private joke (not private anymore) is that it takes a village to replace my daughter. A very, very large village.

Now that I have plenty of people to sing with — and sing to — I’m pretty sure I’m set. That I’ll be singing till the end. TC mark









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You will have to change your ringtone for all your texts because as soon as the old ring tone rings, it will remind you of him. 

You will stop eating out because every restaurant name reminds you of him. 

You will look at TV shows and feel so gross, disgusting, and nasty because all of them has memories linked to them.

You will cuddle your big fat plush mouse and it will remind you of how he put his hand over you. 

You will look at the sky and simply shout to the void that you don’t want to remember anymore. 

You will think about getting back to him, but then the fact that he hurt you will confirm the otherwise. 

You will tell yourself things will get better but after three weeks you will still nostalgic like it was yesterday. 

You will stop sleeping because you are tired of dreaming about the guy who will hold you tight and then suddenly wake up in the middle of the night and realize you are all alone in this world. 

You will look through your Facebook friend list, looking for a friend you feel trusted enough to tell things to but then realize all of them are not really homo-friendly. 

You will cry and you will break down in most of your lectures no matter how interesting the lecture is or how complex a peroxide molecule is, you will cry. 

You will grab yourself back up and you will wipe your own tears that you shed for the person who can’t be to wipe them for you and tell yourself to get over him. 

Finally, you will walk through the park on your campus, looking at the sky and know that everything will be okay and that one day, someone will love you as much as you loved him. TC mark









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I’m currently on the road and I thought I’d ask the foreigners I’m meeting along the way about the one thing about Americans they just don’t understand about us. What do you think about their perspective?

1. “Why do Americans laugh so loudly? Talk so loudly? We can hear you, you know.” – Abe, Israel.

2. “Easiest way to spot an American tourist? They’re wearing shorts! Shorts are ugly. Don’t wear shorts. You do not look professional that way.” – Jorge, Panama.

3. “Americans are way too sensitive. I feel like anytime I talk to an American I have to bite my tongue when I’m talking about politics. I understand Americans are all very PC and trying to tone down hate speech but it’s amazing how they react when you want to speak your mind on their shitty government system.” - Alex, Belgium. 

4. “Why do Americans and Brits have different accents? You look exactly the same.” – Micca, Guatemala.

5. “Why do Americans always say something is ‘awesome’ or ‘cool’? Americans always use over the top adjectives riddled with cheese. I understand that they’re a friendly bunch but they’re too positive about everything. You can’t possibly be THAT happy all the time or think everything is that awe-inspiring to call it awesome.” – Gerard, England.

6. “Americans always call themselves Irish or Italian even though they’re not. They’re fucking American! They will argue so badly about how Irish they are even though all it means is their great-great-great grandmother was Irish. You are not your ancestors. You were born and raised in America. Therefore, you are American.” – Ralph, Ireland.

7. “Don’t think that just because Americans are smiling that they’re happy. They smile for no reason. It’s cute but confusing. Why smile so much?” – Christina, Germany.

8. “They really restrict other cultures to certain stereotypes. If you say you’re from Italy they go ‘Oh, I love pasta!’ What does that have to do with anything? Just because I’m from Italy doesn’t actually mean I’m sitting around eating pasta all day.” – Natalia, Italy.

9. “Americans are generally nice, outgoing people but…tipping doesn’t work…not really sure why Americans are so crazy for tipping. I hate when I go to America and the servers are in my face asking me if I’m okay or how my food is. Bugger off!!” – John, England.

10. “Oh, I love Americans. They’re so sweet and delicate. Like little flowers, you must be careful with what you say to them. Can be so sensitive. I think the one thing I don’t get about them is why they think they have to be polite all the time. They’ll usually be nice even if they’re uncomfortable. Makes me feel bad for them.” – Ailsa, Spain.

11. “Why do Americans refrigerate their eggs? They don’t need to be in there. You guys drink too much milk. That stuff is weird.” – Pablo, Guatemala.

12. “Hahaha Americans! They’re hilarious! They write the month before the day. They always have to be so special and doing everything against what the rest of the world is doing! It’s great!” – Anwen, Germany.

13. “There’s no set guidelines on tipping. It makes it frustrating for having a class meal. Also, the prices are not set in the stores. If something says it’s a certain price that’s the price it should be!” – Arabella, Ireland.

14. “The food portions for one person could feed an entire family! Why must you have so much food every meal? No wonder your waists are getting so large. When me mum and me go to America we just order one of something and split it. Easier that way and don’t have food to waste.” – Kelia, England.

15. “I feel bad you work too much. When I meet Americans they say, ‘Oh, I’m only traveling for 2 weeks. I have to go back to work.’ You live to work. I do not understand that. Most travelers I meet are on the road for at least three months. Me, I am on the road 6 months. Don’t understand a life dedicated to a paycheck.” – Bronwen, Wales.

16. “You all must be so politically correct! It is as if you are afraid to speak out of line. What is Obama doing to your country? Also, you guys don’t know anything about other countries. I know the capital of the States but not one American I meet knows the capital of Australia. How embarrassing. You guys are great though. Can’t party as hard as Australians but you’re fun.” – Oliver, Australia.

17. “Why is the bread so sweet in America? Why is there artificial sweetners in everything? How come you have not taken a stand against all of the poisonous chemicals in your food? Why do you get so excited about football? Why is your music always so good?” – Ethan, Germany. 

18. “You’re so proud of the American flag. Why? Do you think America is just that great? Portion sizes grosses me out. Shopping is too stressful. You are too pushy. Being able to ask your doctor for a prescription. How can you just ask for this? It is very odd. None of you know any languages and you’re bad at math. I’m just giving them a hard time. They’re always the friendliest people I meet. Good people.” – Blake, Australia.

19. “You Americans are always shooting each other up like you don’t have anything else better to do. I turn on the evening news while I’m in New York and there’s shootings happening all night it seems. Very frightening.” – David, Ireland. TC mark









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She was heartbroken and close to tears. She just went through an ugly breakup and near the brink of swearing off guys for eternity. She held my hands and looked at me straight in the eyes. Then she told me, “Please don’t take your relationship seriously.”

I was at the start of my first relationship and pretty hopeful that things would turn out well. Then here’s someone telling me that I shouldn’t take it seriously. Here’s someone who knew it took me months and a lot of guts to enter this relationship. And yet, I was expected to think that it’s soon bound for failure.

That was years ago, and even now people still tell me those kinds of statement. Asking me how long I’ve been in a relationship and then saying that even couples who’ve been together for eight years breakup. It’s probably just precaution, but it makes me feel like they’re only waiting for us to breakup.

I can’t seriously and whole-heartedly love someone while thinking that there will be more after him. Some people seem to have a problem with it, but I don’t.

They may be expert advice earned through years of loving relationships turned to painful ones and series upon series of hateful words and tearful goodbyes. But I see something wrong in telling someone aiming for a lifetime of commitment that it’s impossible to achieve it. Are we already so jaded that it’s difficult to believe that forever is impossible for anyone’s reality?

There’s so much stigma around the word forever that to attach it anywhere near your I love you’s makes them sound hollow. It’s often followed by eye rolls, scoffs, and sneers, as if believing in something eternal is shallow, imbecilic even. It’s cooler to laugh at the overly cheesy Facebook statuses of young love proclaiming that they’ll be together forever than wish that this time it would be true for this couple.

Who are we to judge somebody else’s forever? In fact, what’s wrong in believing in forever? What’s wrong in believing that some things may end sooner than expected but other things may last for a lifetime? It’s a sad reality that people would rather laugh at the face of someone who thinks forever is attainable than root them on. It may not be true for everyone, but why can’t it be true for someone?

I don’t have a problem with people who don’t believe in forever, but I have a problem with people who bring down those who do.

It’s necessary to guard our hearts and to be wary of heartbreak. But I believe in diving headfirst into love no matter the outcome. It’s also important to be so ridiculously in love and to root for that elusive forever. Failing seems better this way, because you know you gave your all than reach the end and know that you haven’t given even half of your heart.

I am rooting for forever, because I don’t see the point of investing so much time and emotions on someone if I’ll only think of our impending breakup.

Maybe this relationship won’t last as long as I hope. Maybe this forever will end next week or next month. But today I love you, and you make me feel like that I can love you forever. There’s nothing wrong with hoping that I will. TC mark









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